Keep Your Conversation Flowing
Do you avoid small talk? Does it make you uncomfortable? Do you find it unnecessary?
Conversations are essential for building and maintaining relationships. Whether with a new acquaintance or a member of your team, knowing how to keep a dialogue flowing is key. What are some strategies and stumbling blocks?
Do’s
Ask Open-Ended Questions - Encourage detailed responses by asking questions like, “What did you do this weekend,” instead of yes/no questions like, “Did you have a good weekend?”
Listen Actively - Show interest with eye contact, nods, and verbal affirmations like “That’s interesting.”
Build on What’s Shared - Use their comments as a springboard. If they mention a trip, ask, “What was most memorable?”
Share Relevant Stories - Contribute your own experiences briefly and keep them relevant to the topic.
Watch Your Body Language - Smile, maintain an open posture, keep eye contact, and avoid negative cues like crossing arms.
Don’t’s
Don’t Interrupt - Let them finish speaking before responding, even if you know what they will be saying.
Don’t Dominate - Avoid monopolizing the conversation; ensure balance.
Don’t Hijack the Conversation -Avoid shifting focus to yourself. Stay focused on them. If they mention a vacation, ask about their experience before sharing your own.
Don’t Dwell on Negativity - Steer discussions toward positive or constructive topics.
Don’t Ignore Body Language Cues - Watch for signs of disinterest or distraction and adjust accordingly.
Conclusion
Keeping a conversation going means fostering balance and connection. By listening actively, asking thoughtful questions, and avoiding pitfalls like interrupting or dominating, you’ll create meaningful exchanges and deeper connections. Remember to stay curious. You know all about yourself; why not learn about the other person?
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